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So You Think Beating A Child With A Cord Is Good Parenting?

The digital universe is full of viral videos of adults beating children. I view them warily, alert for triggers that catapult me back into the days of being viciously beaten by my adoptive mother, the wife of a Pentecostal preacher … Continue reading

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“Mama, I Don’t Wanna Do My Homework!”

“Dear Mother Wit, I’m so tired of begging and pleading with my son to do his homework every night.  It’s a struggle to pull him away from the TV, video games, and his computer.  I don’t want to yell and scream. … Continue reading

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How To Keep Cool When Your Child Is Being Disrespectful

“I will not tolerate my child disrespecting me. And if I have to whup their behinds to get them to show respect, then I will.” I hear this from parents all the time.  And I know how they feel, because … Continue reading

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A White Man Struggles with Black Wife’s Family Over Spanking

                                 What do you do when you and your spouse clash over whether to spank the children…and the conflict is rooted in black and white? … Continue reading

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There’s No Safe Place for Black Children in America

“There is no place for black children in this world,” intellectual giant and civil rights doyen W.E.B. Du Bois lamented in 1920. His hyperbolic use of “this world” conveys the mean-spiritedness of mainstream life to the first generations of free … Continue reading

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You Lie, You Die: The Bible as a Deadly Weapon

                                                 My heart breaks at recent news reports of a 7-year-old boy, Roderick “RJ” Arrington Jr. being … Continue reading

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Snapped! When Whipping A Child Turns Deadly

                                                           First, there’s the headline: Paul Adams, Black Belt, Allegedly Beat 6-Year-Old … Continue reading

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Your Child is Not “Bad”

“There is no such a thing as a bad child, honey.” I said those words the other day to a group of my sister friends and they all looked at me sideways like I had lost my mind.  Yes, I … Continue reading

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Adoptees’ Fantasies About Birth Parents Can Be Good and Bad

                                                       Recently, I met with a group of adult adoptees who were torn about … Continue reading

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Why Do So Many Black People Threaten To Hurt Children?

It doesn’t take much to set them off.  Adults, too often Black, are joining a growing chorus on social media and everywhere else to sing the praises of beating children—too often Black—for one infraction or another. Most recently, a viral … Continue reading

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